This past month I learned that when a lesson needs to be finalized once and for all the universe will pull out all the stops in order to get the message across. And man did it do that for me and I couldn't be more grateful! This month was tough. I was challenged in many areas of my life. I was presented with many situations that required me to make hard choices. I had to make decisions that felt extremely uncomfortable because I knew making them would cause others to feel uncomfortable. In the past, I would have done all that I could to please others. My only focus would have been on making sure that I conformed to what others believed was right and I would have gone against everything that I believed was right for me. This is a recipe for disaster, but this is what we do when we don't know who we are. This is what we do when we don't know our own truth. This is what we do when we neglect our inner knowing. We conform. We obey. We listen to the opinions of others. We forget that somewhere within us, we have our very own unique compass. Why do we forget? Because somewhere along our path we heard a message that sounds something like this.
"It's not ok to think what I think, to believe what I believe and to feel what I feel."
This message leaves us feeling so unsafe in our own body that we will do whatever it takes to feel comfortable, to fit in, to feel accepted. We believe other people's thoughts without question, we lie to ourselves and we completely disconnect from our own intuition. And what's worse is often times we aren't even aware that we are doing this.
So how do we take back our power and return to the knowing of who we are? How was I able to make different choices this month than I would have in the past?
I've committed to knowing myself from the inside out and to taking responsibility for every thought and feeling that I encounter within me. My number one job is to continuously do the work of identifying and releasing old beliefs that keep me limited and feeling disempowered. Being committed to identifying the limited, fear based beliefs that I have bought into then gives me the power to know what needs to be released so I can make choices that align with my heart and soul.
Some thought patterns that I have confronted and let go of this month sounded like...
"My truth will hurt people"
"Everyone will believe that I'm a bad person"
"I should be more understanding of people"
"I should be a "nicer" person so that everyone can be happy"
"I shouldn't cause so much conflict"
Once we are willing to identify these fear based thoughts and release them, we can then reconnect to our truth. We are able to take back our power and choose thoughts that are in alignment with who we really are and how we desire to feel. Releasing toxic thoughts gives us the space to choose thoughts that feel more aligned with our truth. Some of the more empowered thoughts that I am giving myself permission to soak up are...
"My truth feels empowering and guides me to make decisions that support my well being."
"My truth will attract those people who are energetically aligned to who I truly am."
"The only person I am responsible for understanding is myself"
"I am exactly who I need to be depending on every situation that life confronts me with as long as it feel right and true for me"
"I will create peace and harmony in my life by making decisions that empower and uplift me.
These new beliefs are aligned with my highest truth and they create a sense of freedom that enables me to be assertive and stand my ground. They enable the opinions and the stories of others to fall away and they guide me back to myself. There is nothing more powerful than doing the work of getting to know who we truly are, aligning with the thoughts, beliefs and emotions that feel good to us and then most importantly taking the right action so that we can create the peace, joy and freedom that we are here to experience.
Do the Work! Powerful Questions to ask...
What experiences continue to show up in your life that you'd like to see change?
Are you willing to commit to yourself and take full responsibility for all of your experiences?
What are some of the beliefs that you are being asked to let go of so that you can make the necessary changes to create more freedom and expansion for yourself?
What are some new beliefs that feel more in alignment with your desires?