Updated: Feb 1
Spiritual Truth: Nobody can truly abandon us. Only we can do that. My sister recently text me the photo above after coming across it in a photo album. We were vacationing in Disney at the time. I was 18 years old. Just a quick glance at the picture brought up countless feelings and insights. This 18-year old Denise was convinced she loved herself. She was convinced she knew everything there was to know about who she was. She was certainly convinced she would never abandon herself.
And then life showed me differently. The journey from self-abandonment to the deepest experience of self-love is just that - a journey and I continue to learn a thing or two on my path. Here are just a few.
We abandon ourselves when we don’t take responsibility for and question our own subconscious beliefs.
We abandon ourselves when we insist on forcing a certain outcome in order to validate our self-worth.
We abandon ourselves when we force ourselves to fit in a box that was never meant for us.
We abandon ourselves when we settle for so much less than our heart knows we deserve.
We abandon ourselves when we don’t give ourselves permission to stand in our own truth and live by our own rules.
We abandon ourselves when we force situations to remain the same knowing that they are way past their expiration date.
We abandon ourselves when we try to force positivity on top of our true authentic emotions.
We abandon ourselves when we choose to criticize ourselves rather than have compassion for ourselves.
We abandon ourselves when we blame ourselves rather than forgive ourselves.
We abandon ourselves when we care more about how we ”look“ than about how we “feel.“
We abandon ourselves when we choose to please others before pleasing ourselves.
We abandon ourselves when we have awareness of a pattern that disempowers us and yet we continue to repeat it.
We abandon ourselves when we know in our gut what is true and yet we continue to remain in denial.
We abandon ourselves when we don’t choose our inner world above everything else.
Becoming aware of how we abandon ourselves is how we move towards greater compassion for ourselves and ultimately choose ourselves first and foremost. Choosing ourselves IS the journey to the highest form of self love. It’s the most gratifying journey we will ever take. ❤